Screw it! I’m Downloading OnlyFans!

“Screw it! I’m downloading OnlyFans!” I turn and see the girl behind me laughing with her friend in lecture. They continue to brainstorm the various ways they can pay for their expensive utilities bill. OnlyFans is online platform where creators sell exclusive content to users. Users pay a fee, usually between five and ten dollars per month to subscribe to a creator’s account (Jarvey, 2020). Although OnlyFans does not advertise sex work, OnlyFans is primarily associated with one thing: porn (Safaee, 2021). OnlyFans has become exponentially popular and it is now mainstream, and COVID-19 has had a huge influence on the company’s success. The restrictions imposed by COVID-19 created a demand for digital sex work and digital intimacy, and the timing and goal of OnlyFans were near perfect. During the first year of the pandemic, global subscriptions rose from 20 million to 120 million (Nilsson, 2021). 

This blog explores the benefits and drawbacks to creating sexually explicit material (SEM) on OnlyFans with an emphasis on sexual wellbeing and will assess if the mentality, “Screw it! I’m downloading OnlyFans!” holds any value.  

OnlyFans = Empowered Sex God?

Katrin Tiidenberg (2014) studied exotic bloggers and self-shooters on Tumblr, a social media website. OnlyFans is similar to Tumblr and may demonstrate similar effects on sexuality. Like Tumblr, OnlyFans operates like a social network: creators posts photos and videos to their account; however, the key difference is that OnlyFans users must subscribe to have access to content (Jarvey, 2020).

Blogging SEM directly challenges a theory called the “regimen of shame,” where many sexual practices cannot be openly expressed, causing immense anxiety and dissatisfaction (Tiidenberg, 2014). Tiidenberg (2014) found that creators on Tumblr had increased sexual desires and sexual open-mindedness. This finding was attributed to two unique characteristics of sexual self-shooting and blogging. First, creators on Tumblr were frequently exposed to sexual scripts that were different from their own, and the website was viewed as a safe community for discussing sexual desires. Furthermore, Tiidenberg (2014) notes SEM that is self-shot has shown to be a form of empowering exhibitionism. Feeling in control of the process of taking and editing sexual content, paired with the support from subscribers, transforms one’s blog into a sensual “looking glass,” and can improve sexual self-esteem.

Give Me Some Sexual Agency

OnlyFans may give women some of that sexual agency they’ve been craving. OnlyFans is recognized for personal power and control over sexual decisions, especially in the adult entertainment industry. Marylin Corsianos evaluated if mainstream pornography could promote women’s sexual agency in 2007 (pre OnlyFans). Most of Corsianos’ (2007) work highlighted that SEMs are entrenched in a patriarchal and heterosexist landscape. For example, in mainstream pornography, women are expected to perform a sexual script that emphasizes men’s satisfaction over their own pleasure and are bound to a hyper-feminine role. Corsianos (2007) concluded that new pornography must be diverse/self-defined and more accessible to creators to improve women’s sexual agency. OnlyFans is an example of the rise in individualized erotic labour where sex work is conducted, managed, and advertised in an isolated setting (Jones, 2015). It seems that the framework of OnlyFans allows women to obtain the sexual agency that Corsianos described. OnlyFans might just make women their own boss, and finally allow them to gain capital on their sexuality without entering the historically sexist mainstream porn industry. 

No Such Thing as Easy $

Selling SEM comes with risks. Many individuals struggle with the stigma and social repercussions that are associated with this type of work. This begs the question, why did OnlyFans make exotic labour more appealing to those who previously would have never considered this type of work? In short, money. OnlyFans captivates its users by promising fast, easy money with the added benefit of being your own boss (Safaee, 2021). Individuals who sell SEMs reported that money was the primary motivation for joining the industry and maintaining involvement (Griffith et al. 2010). However, there are misconceptions surrounding OnlyFans and its profit that are vital to consider. First, the distribution of income on OnlyFans is exceptionally skewed. An analysis found that the top 1% of creators make 33% of the profits on the website (Perry, 2020). Furthermore, the average woman creator on OnlyFans only secures 30 subscribers. Additionally, the analysis notes that creators’ income may not pay off when measuring both the time spent creating material and interacting with subscribers (Perry, 2020).

Goodbye Privacy. 

OnlyFans might seems private--I mean, people need to pay to see the content, right?  Angela Jones (2015) investigated the role of sex work in the digital era. They note that scholars in sexuality view the Internet as a positive adaptation in the sex work industry, creating more affordances in physical safety and improving solicitation for SEM producers. However, Jones (2015) reminds us that the Internet is not as safe as you may think. SEM workers, such as Camgirls, are frequently victims of capping and doxing, two risks that one must be aware of when considering OnlyFans. Capping is when consumers share a creator’s SEM on other platforms without consent or compensation. Doxing is when viewers find personal information, such as your address, birth name, etc. and share with other users to harass the SEM producer. Indeed, creators on OnlyFans were distressed by the lack of security on their account. Safaee (2021) interviewed six creators on OnlyFans, and found that a common concern reported was the emotional stress of their content being shared. Multiple creators had not disclosed their account to family or friends. Many creators felt that they would be humiliated if those in their social circle become aware of their account. As discussed previously, shame around sexual behaviours can cause immense anxiety and dysfunction in one’s sexuality (Tiidenberg, 2014).

Does OnlyFans Really Matter?  

Why does these issues matter if OnlyFans is “worth it” to the average creator? SEM has grown exponentially in the last few decades and it is increasingly consumed due to accessibility from the Internet (Pukall, 2020). Much emphasis is placed on the effects of consuming SEM, while the effects of producing SEM has been ignored.  This is problematic, as platforms, such as OnlyFans, have increased participation in this form of sex work. To many, OnlyFans is appealing, given that the individualized erotic labour entails more sexual agency and empowerment. However, this article addressed two main costs associated with creating content on OnlyFans. First, that OnlyFans has a false reputation of providing an impressive income for its users which undermines the popular motivation for producing SEM. Second, creators on OnlyFans experience immense emotional distress over the lack of privacy and risk sexual shame and harassment. Indeed, it seems as though SEM on the Internet is here to stay, so perhaps it is time to consider the health and wellbeing of its creators especially as this workforce increases in size and becomes more mainstream. 

Chelsea Roberts, Psychology (Honours) - BAH / 3rd year, Queen’s University.

  

References

Angela Jones. (2015). Sex Work in a Digital Era. Sociology Compass9(7), 558–570. https://doi.org/10.1111/soc4.12282

Aryana Safaee. (2021). Sex, Love, and OnlyFans: How the Gig Economy Is Transforming Online Sex Work. ProQuest Dissertations Publishing. 

Griffith, Hayworth, M., Adams, L. T., Mitchell, S., & Hart, C. (2012). Characteristics of Pornography Film Actors: Self-Report versus Perceptions of College Students. Archives of Sexual Behavior42(4), 637–647. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10508-012-0033-5

Katrin Tiidenberg. (2014). Bringing sexy back: Reclaiming the body aesthetic via self-shooting. Cyberpsychology8(1). https://doi.org/10.5817/CP2014-1-3

Louise Perry. (2020). By exploiting loneliness, OnlyFans became the porn industry’s great lockdown winner. But at what cost? New Statesman (1996)149(5545).

Marylin Corsianos. (2007). Mainstream Pornography and “Women”: Questioning Sexual Agency. Critical Sociology33(5-6), 863–885. https://doi.org/10.1163/156916307X230359

Natalie Jarvey. (2020). OnlyFans: Hollywood’s Risque Pandemic Side Hustle. Hollywood Reporter426, 32–33. 

Patricia Nilsson. (2021). OnlyFans blurs boundaries as lockdown demand drives success. FT.com.

Pukall. (2020). Human Sexuality : A Contemporary Introduction (Third Edition.). Oxford University Press.

Three’s (Not) A Crowd!

At some point in all our lives, we have heard the phrase “third-wheel”. Maybe you have used it in the past to signal to a third person they were unwanted between yourself and a sexual partner, or possibly you were that third person being signalled. Either way, the feelings of being left out and jealous of others is pleasant for no one (Scoats & Anderson, 2018). Despite the negative connotations associated with crowds of three, a large magnitude of young adults in Western society has either participated, or expressed interest in participating, in a threesome (Thompson & Byers, 2021). What may come as a surprise is that threesomes may be more beneficial for couples and single individuals’ sexual expression and satisfaction than you may think.

Threesome crash course

So, what is a threesome? A threesome is consensual nonmonogamy in its plainest form (Thompson & Byers, 2021). It usually describes a consensual sexual act involving 3 individuals at the same time (Thompson, Cipriano, Kirkeby, Wilder & Lehmiller, 2021). These behaviours can range anywhere from 3-way kissing to 3-way penetration depending on the genitals of participants and/or sex toys involved (Lanquist, 2020)! These types of sexual interactions are no new feat, as passages written on double penetration have been found in the Kamasutra, a book written about sexuality more than 2000 years ago (King, 2016)! Even though threesomes have existed for centuries, the attitudes people hold towards them are greatly shaped by one’s culture. Western society’s sexual script heavily favours monogamy, especially that occurring between committed men and women (Thompson & Byers, 2021). This norm is depicted throughout our own society, whether that be in movies, magazines, or in the views held by those close to us. Due to this, any type of relationship that deviates from this norm, including threesomes, is deemed as less than monogamous relationships, and this is especially true for mixed gender threesomes—more on this later (Thompson & Byers, 2021).  

Although stigma exists, it has not stopped 18% of men and 10% of women in one study who had already participated in one (Thompson et al., 2021). Unfortunately, these individuals are the exception not the rule, as 93% of men and 84% of women from the same sample reported fantasizing about experiencing one but had yet to actually participate in a threesome (Thompson & Byers, 2021). There are many barriers preventing people from acting upon this desire. Living in a culture where monogamy is the norm makes it difficult to know how to approach group sexual encounters, since this sexual script may not be developed (Thompson et al., 2021). In addition, others may be avoidant due a backlash effect, which outlines avoiding desired behaviours that do not align with society’s norms to prevent being judged negatively by others (Thompson et al., 2021).

How do people really feel about threesomes?

            Several studies have found that generally, people’s attitudes towards threesomes range from neutral to positive along with expressing significant interest in participating in one (Thompson et al., 2021).  Where people’s attitudes tend to deviate is dependent on gender. In a study conducted by Thompson and Byers (2021), gender differences in threesomes were explored. It was found men who initiated threesomes were perceived to be better partners, smarter, and more moral in comparison to women who initiated. Further, uncommitted women who initiated threesomes or other casual sexual encounters were perceived to have a more extensive sexual history than committed women who initiated. These findings are not surprising as women tend to be scrutinized more regarding sexual behaviour than are men, a phenomenon known as the sexual double standard (Harvey, Harvey & Thompson, 2020). Due to this sexual double standard, women may be more discouraged to participate in a threesome, as to avoid judgment from others. The possibility of judgement should not influence behaviour too strongly, as research has demonstrated that as we age, we tend to be more open towards threesomes due to having evolved to combat societal stigma (Thompson et al., 2021). Basically, life is too short to care about what other people think.

Ok, what’s so good about threesomes anyways?

            Research has demonstrated that threesomes generally do not negatively impact monogamy the same ways that other types of consensual nonmonogamy do. In fact, they can actually work to improve pre-existing monogamous relationships while also benefiting uncommitted individuals as well (Scoats & Anderson, 2018). Scoats and Anderson (2018) found that for monogamous couples participating in a threesome together, as long as the threesome was temporary, it provided a healthy boost to each partner’s sex lives. These group encounters also create a safe space for exploring with sexual partners outside of the relationship while also reaffirming the monogamous connection if the monogamous couple is valued as the core couple in the interaction (Scoats & Anderson, 2018). Single individuals may also benefit from participating in a threesome since they are exposed to exploring nonmonogamous behaviours as well as same-sex behaviours in the absence of the stigma associated with fully adopting these identities (Thompson et al., 2021). One study determined that a “one time rule of homosexuality” is generally not favoured in western culture anymore, indicating that if you participate in one same-sex behaviour, you will not automatically be labeled as same-sex oriented (Scoats, Joseph & Anderson, 2017). This allows for more sexual exploration without pressures or stigma from society, which is a strong argument supporting threesomes if you ask me!

Is this too good to be true?

            Of course, nothing great goes without risk, and threesomes are no different. Research suggests that the biggest risk of participating in a threesome is the potential of feeling jealous and excluded (Scoats & Anderson, 2017). These feelings were mostly associated with participating in a threesome with a romantic partner, but jealousy and exclusion can still arise in other types of encounters. Although possible, there are many strategies that work to prevent or rectify these unpleasant feelings. Couples participating in threesomes that had open dialogues about expectations and feelings reported being influenced less by exclusion (Scoats & Anderson, 2017). By using open communication and setting rules within a threesome, the unpleasant feelings can be lessened or avoided altogether. In contrast, it was found that open communication was less important in a threesome without a pre-existing couple, as this relates to attitudes directed towards casual sex. Additionally, women who participate in threesomes may be placed at a higher risk for negative social repercussions than men due to the sexual double standard. Aside from being perceived as more promiscuous, women are at risk of potential objectification in threesomes (Scoats, 2018). Even in threesomes containing 2 men and 1 woman, the possibility that the encounter is to mainly please the male’s sexual desires should not be ruled out (Scoats, 2018).

 So, is a threesome for you?

Understanding what a threesome is and its potential benefits and risks is an informative way to embrace various sexual dynamics. Those that differ from the dominant trend of monogamy should not be stigmatized by society, since due to the high prevalence of interest in threesomes, most people would be considered idiosyncratic by society’s standard. Unfortunately, much is unknown about the outcomes associated with threesomes as the literature is limited on this topic. More research examining long term attitudes and effects of threesomes may help reduce the stigma that surrounds them. What the existing research does suggest is that threesomes are generally a safe way to express one’s sexuality with limited risks involved. With that, being the “third wheel” may not always be such a bad thing!

Rebecca Star, 3rd year Psychology, Queen's University

References

Harvey, C.A., Harvey, T.A. & Thompson, A.E. (2020). The “Sextual” Double Standard: An Experimental Examination of Variations in Judgments of Men and Women Who Engage in Computer-Mediated Sexual Communication. Sexuality & Culture 24, 712–732, https://doi-org.proxy.queensu.ca/10.1007/s12119-019-09658-8

King, E. (2016, April 1). A Definitive History of Threesomes Throughout the Ages. Complex. Retrieved November 7, 2021, from https://www.complex.com/life/2016/04/threesomes-history/. 

Lanquist, L. (2020, December 2). Threesome Sex Positions That Make Ménages-à-Trois All the More Approachable. Style Caster. Retrieved November 7, 2021, from https://stylecaster.com/threesome-sex-positions/. 

Scoats, R., Joseph, L. J., & Anderson, E. (2017, February 8). ‘I don’t mind watching him cum’: Heterosexual men, threesomes, and the erosion of the one-time rule of homosexuality. Sage Journals. Retrieved November 7, 2021, from https://journals-sagepub-com.proxy.queensu.ca/doi/10.1177/1363460716678562. 

Scoats, R. & Anderson, E. (2019) ‘My partner was just all over her’: jealousy,       communication and rules in mixed-sex threesomes, Culture, Health & Sexuality, 21:2,       134-146, DOI: 10.1080/13691058.2018.1453088

Scoats, R. (2019) ‘If there is no homo, there is no trio’: women’s experiences and expectations    of MMF threesomes, Psychology & Sexuality, 10:1, 45-55, DOI:       10.1080/19419899.2018.1546766

Thompson, A.E., Byers, E.S. (2021). An Experimental Investigation of Variations in Judgments of Hypothetical Males and Females Initiating Mixed-Gender Threesomes: An         Application of Sexual Script Theory. Arch Sex Behav 50, 1129–1142, https://doi-            org.proxy.queensu.ca/10.1007/s10508-020-01729-4

Thompson, A.E., Cipriano, A.E., Kirkeby, K.M., Wilder, D., Lehmiller, J.J. (2021). Exploring     Variations in North American Adults’ Attitudes, Interest, Experience, and Outcomes   Related to Mixed-Gender Threesomes: A Replication and Extension. Arch Sex Behav 50, 1433–1448 https://doi-org.proxy.queensu.ca/10.1007/s10508-020-01829-1